I am passionate about helping people be able to say "no" while still being powerful forces of kindness and good in the world. I don't think they are mutually exclusive, in fact, I believe that the better you get at knowing and speaking your boundaries, the more decisive and energetic you'll be in doing good works.
Somatic Experiencing is the main approach I use to help people get to this place of resourcefulness. While a therapist might ask "Why don't you want to say no?" and a coach might say "let's talk about different ways you can say no," a Somatic Experiencing practitioner might help you notice the fire in your belly when you imagine saying no. That fire might be uncomfortable at first, and we'll keep it small and gentle- but over a series of sessions, you'll notice that it becomes a fuel that is second-nature to you, and you'll find yourself expressing yourself differently, and making powerful decisions that feel strong, healthy, and attuned to your values.
Please note! This is not psychotherapy. I use my 4 years of training in Somatic Experiencing, along with 15 years of bodywork experience to guide you in a deeper understanding of your own body, and to facilitate your own growing abilities to regulate your body's handling of stress. Somatic Experiencing is a multifaceted resource used by many massage therapists such as myself, as well as by many psychotherapists, coaches, and other professionals deeply invested in helping their fellow human.
In time, my hope is that you'll find yourself more emotionally resilient, more connected to your drive, and more able to enjoy each moment of your life.
"Before I started talking to Aaron, I thought I had to push myself to extremes and make significant personal sacrifices to achieve what I wanted, and anything less was "making excuses." Now I understand it is not necessary (and not any fun) to suffer today in order to enjoy success tomorrow. In addition to shifting my perspective in a big way, our work together taught me useful techniques for situations that had previously been stressful and overwhelming for me, including understanding and resolving internal conflict and communicating about emotions with others. My favorite part of Aaron's approach to personal growth and fulfillment is that it is so kind. Instead of seeking change through force and a "just do it" philosophy that has been so prevalent in American culture, working with Aaron shows how approaching problems with gentleness, creativity, and curiosity can solve almost anything." -K.D.